How To Get Over Someone – Who Dumped You
You could go to the extreme and you can cry, scream, be totally miserable and vow to hate the opposite sex for the rest of your life or you can choose to get on with your life after a brief mourning period.
Choosing to get on with your life means making and sticking to a plan to learn what it takes to be single again. It may take some time but tell yourself you have the strength to get through this and you will.
So take a day to cry, scream and feel miserable. You need this to move on to the next step. Just make sure that you don’t go over the twenty-four hours you give yourself. No one is worth more than that amount of time. Once things start to get under control, you may even feel like you are better without them.
When your twenty-four hours are up, get up the next morning and start clearing away any and all of the things that will remind you of the other person. Pictures, mementos, cards, jewelry, whatever it is, get rid of it. Put it in storage or if things were really bad just throw it in the trash bin. Let the garbage man handle how to get over someone.
Clearing things away may not take all day so in the afternoon, call a friend and get out of the house. Meet for coffee or go have lunch. Go buy yourself a new pair of shoes. Just do something to make yourself feel better.
What you don’t want to do is have any contact with the one who broke up with you. Don’t call them or text them or message them on Facebook. Adopt a no-contact policy, none, zip, zilch, nada. It won’t do you any good and will only succeed in keeping you mired in self-doubt and misery. Let it go.
There are so many other things you can do to keep your mind off of how bad you feel. Go to the library and check out a good book to lose yourself in. Join an exercise class and get in shape. Check out the local community college and sign up to take a class. Go to a local nursing home and volunteer your time. Go eat some ice cream. Concentrate on you for a while. Soon you will be feeling happy again and one day you will realize that you have moved on.
When that realization hits home you can smile at yourself and be optimistic about your future. Then and only then should you consider dating and getting back into another relationship. Don’t jump from one bad relationship to another. A new relationship probably won’t work if you get into one too soon and you will then have to learn how to get over someone else along with the first one.