Is It Love Or Infatuation
Starting with the very first meeting, you both will feel a strong pull towards each other. Thats easily identified as attraction. As you talk, this attraction becomes even stronger and you want to spend as much time as you can with this person. You agree to go out on a date and that leads to even more of a pull. Now this is where things get a bit tricky.
Suddenly, you have no interest in eating and you have trouble sleeping. Nothing really interests you other than this new person in your life. Its almost like you have a mild case of the flu. Thats why its called lovesick. When your phone rings, you jump ten feet and nearly kill yourself in answering it because you just KNOW its the object of your current affections. If it turns out to be someone else on the end of the phone, your heart plummets and you can barely wait to end the call.
Taking it further, when you know youre going to see this person, your hands are sweaty and you cant stop pacing. You check your look in the mirror over and over again, needing to look your absolute best. This is the stage when EVERYTHING this other person does is cute. It doesnt matter if his table manners are atrocious or her laugh is enough to set most peoples teeth on edge, these are the traits of your current beloved and there has never been a more perfect person. The two of you cant stand to be apart. You never run out of things to talk about, and you cant keep your hands off of each other.
Now, up to this point, these symptoms may simply mean that youre infatuated with each other or it could, indeed, be true love. Give this stage about six weeks to a full two months. If his ability to belch the entire alphabet has lost its impressiveness or her constantly interrupting you in the middle of talking is no longer charming, this might be the beginning of the end. Suddenly, you CAN stand to be away from each other for days at a time. This may mean that things are starting to settle down a bit. Now, this still doesnt mean youre not in love, but it does show that youve moved out of that honeymoon period that all relationships enjoy.
The true difference between infatuation and love is that even after youve stopped thinking everything each other does is cute and wonderful, you still want to be together, you just might be in love. If you find each other disgusting at this point, it was all a wonderful dream, or infatuation.