What Are The Five Relationships

June 18, 2018

When you hear about the 5 relationships people could be talking about the ones outlined by Confucian. According to Confucian quotes there are 5 relationships. There is one between the ruler and subject, the father and son, the elder brother and his younger brother, the husband and wife and friend and friend.

They may also be discussing the five Cs of successful relationships which I personally believe are more apt today than a quote that says In ones household, it is the women and the small men that are difficult to deal with. If you let them get too close, they become insolent (disrespectful). If you keep them at a distance, they complain. Quoting this would hardly mend bridges with your other half!

So what are the five C’s in a relationship?

1) Communication – poor communication is the number one reason for relationship breakdown. It is amazing what good communication skills can prevent or overcome. Knowing how to talk and how to listen are two key skills in any partnership but particularly between couples. Despite not being taught at school, learning how to communicate effectively will help you succeed in life not just in your love life but at the office and with your kids. So how can you learn? There are a number of ways but one very good book on the subject is the Magic of Making Up. Obviously it is targeted towards relationships but the basic principles apply to all forms of communication.

2) Compromise – this is a huge part of being in a successful partnership. You have to compromise or you are not going to last. This doesn’t mean you always have to bend to your partners demands but that you must work out a way that you both can do things that you like doing. Compromise is key.

3) Commitment – you have to be committed to having a successful relationship. It may sound funny but there are a number of couples out there who haven’t thought about how hard you have to work to keep a loving partnership going. You both have to be committed to seeing each other through the good times as well as the bad.

4) Celebration – you will bring more success if you celebrate that which you already enjoy. Be grateful for your partner and show them you appreciate them. The more you show you care, the more likely they are to find other ways to show you how much they care. In other words, it becomes a loving circle that will over time help to solidify your relationship and thus prevent break ups. Affairs happen a lot of the time because partners feel neglected. Don’t let that happen to you.

5) Conclusion – This is the last C in any discussion on relationships. Having a successful marriage isn’t easy. You must commit time to each other but also to yourself. If you don’t care about yourself, you cannot care about other people. Love yourself and your partner. Treat them with the same respect you show yourself. Don’t become complacent – read books like The Magic Of Making Up and you will be able to recite the 5 relationships if someone ever asks you what they are.