When Is It Time To Define The Relationship

If you are asking should you define the relationship, the answer is probably yes. When two people start dating, they usually continue to date other people as well. It is only over time that they decide to be mutually exclusive. Sometimes this just happens. He may introduce you to his friends as his girlfriend or his partner. Other times it may take one partner to make the first move and ask for the relationship to be defined.

It is not an easy move to make as you risk rejection and nobody likes to be rejected. But the other side of the coin is the fact that it just isn’t possible to become serious about one another when you are still seeing other people on the side. You need to give your relationship a chance to deepen, develop and grow. It is only by concentrating on each other that you can decide over time whether you two do indeed have a long term future together.

So when should you make this move? The answer depends on a lot of things not least the length of time you have been dating and how much interest your partner is showing in you. You need to be realistic. Often we can tell when a man or a woman is really interested in us and when they are just using us to fill time. Whether we decide to read the signals correctly is another issue. The Magic Of Making Up outlines the communication issues that can cause difficulties between men and women and more importantly how to over come them.

You can use these secrets to help determine whether your partner is serious or not. You need to know. If you have decided that this is the mate you have been looking for, you are only going to become hurt and jealous if they continue to see other people. It is not fair on them either as they do not know that you don’t want them dating elsewhere. It takes too people to make a couple and you cannot depend on the other person reading your mind. You need to be straight with them and tell them exactly what you want.

Don’t get too serious too quickly though. You can just bring up a conversation about the future and ask your partner where he thinks the two of you are going? He may be really pleased that you opened this door or he may get all shifty as you are discussing long term commitment which can scare some men. Be clear that you are not proposing marriage but that you would like the both of you to just date each other in order to see whether this relationship can fulfill the promise it shows.

So prepare yourself and have that discussion today. Who knows where the decision to define the relationship will take you. This time next year you could be defining the wedding details! Good luck.


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