Relationship Advice Online – Plain Common Sense Applies
Just in case you were wondering, I’m not a counselor or therapist. I’m just someone who has had some experience (not all of which has been good) and I’ve learned a lot of very valuable life lessons. Once you read over my list of tips, I think that you’ll see for yourself that none of it is rocket science, but it is good advice that can really benefit you.
OK, here we go:
1. Don’t settle. I’m pretty sure most everyone on the planet has settled at one time or another and stayed in a relationship with someone they knew they shouldn’t be in a relationship with. I’ve done it. It’s pretty apparent early on, in most cases, that your love isn’t all they are cracked up to be.
It usually starts small: a little lie, a nasty comment, etc. From there it almost always gets worse (why wouldn’t it, you have already proved to them that they can treat you that way and you will keep coming back for more).
Don’t be paranoid, but keep your eyes open for subtle clues. If they are going to show up they will probably show up early, long before you are too far in to leave. If you see some things, try to talk about it and work it out but if it doesn’t change, leave. You deserve better.
2. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated. If you don’t want to be lied to, put down or cheated on than don’t do that to your honey. Hold yourself and any one else that you are in a relationship with (this doesn’t have to only apply to romantic relationships either, the same holds true for friends and family) to a high standard. Give as good as you expect to get.
3. There is a fine line between being willing to work on problems and turning a blind eye to the faults of your partner. By all means be willing to work on issues, but you have to be realistic and not allow yourself to be manipulated. It’s very easy for your partner to tell you that they will ‘try to change’.
They may make some small attempts for a while but if you’re not careful you will both revert back to a negative pattern of behavior in a few days. You have to be on guard and make sure that doesn’t happen.
Finding relationship advice online isn’t hard to do. If you want to ‘fast track’ it, just keep these tips in mind for your current relationship or the next time you find yourself dating. You will save yourself a world of hurt if you do.