Relationship Status – Wow – Its A Loaded Question
It’s a tricky thing to ask for clarification about what the other person is feeling. It might seem to them like you are pressuring them. This can lead to resentment and even a fight that can put a strain on the relationship.
Sometimes when you ask the question about how the other person is feeling, you may not hear what you want to hear. That too can cause some problems in the relationship. Either way, it can lead to an uncomfortable conversation with your partner.
Before you have ‘the’ conversation with your partner, you may want to carefully consider whether or not this really is the person you want to take the relationship to the next level with in the first place.
It’s ohh so easy to see what you want to see. To be happy in a relationship you have to pick carefully. You don’t want to pretend that the person you are dating is ‘marriage’ material when they so obviously are not.
There are basics that you should never compromise on. Make sure that your partner is someone that you want to continue on with before you ask ‘the’ question.
Are they honest? If not, than why would you want to consider having a relationship with them? News flash, they will not change! If your partner lies, cheats, steals than do not continue a relationship with them.
Is your partner mature enough to stay in a relationship with? It may be fun now to be with a ‘free spirit’ but that will get old the longer you are together. And don’t mistake a flaky, fighting attitude with ‘passion’. That is the epitome of immaturity.
Does your partner communicate effectively? That doesn’t just mean that they know how to talk, but do they know how to listen? Do you? It’s important that you both can talk and listen to what each other has to say. Can you convey what you are feeling to your partner in a constructive way? Can you take constructive criticism from your partner? These are all important skills to have if you and your partner are going to have effective communication.
The bottom line: can you trust your partner? Can you trust them not to cheat, can you trust them with your money, can you trust them to have your back no matter what is going on? If your answer to any of these questions is ‘No’ or ‘I’m not sure’ than you really need to reevaluate why you are even in a relationship with this person.
It’s understandable to want to confirm your relationship status with your partner, but before you ask the question make sure that you are really ready for the answer. You also want to make sure that the relationship is worth continuing with. Don’t get too complacent and ignore potential problems, you aren’t doing yourself any favors if you do that.