Wife Husband Relationship Tips – Check Out The Flaws
Wife husband relationship tips can help you fix your relationship issues. It’s often said that relationships require work and compromise. While I agree with the ‘compromise’ part I’m not so sure I agree with the ‘work’ part. If you marry the right person for you, it’s not work.
I’ve been married twice. The first time I got married I was pretty young and hadn’t really had too many serious relationships. The man I married was an insecure, childish person. That was evident from pretty early on, but since I was in love I ignored those traits. I’m not sure what I expected.
Over time we had two children and things kept getting worse and worse. He was verbally abusive and seemed to consider cutting me down in front of his family to be some sort of sport. When I asked him to stop, that it made me feel bad, he would simply say ‘You’re too sensitive, I was just kidding’.
If your partner says that to you, or something similar, I hate to break it to you but you are being abused. There is no excuse for someone to say or do something that makes you feel bad and then ignore you when you ask them to stop.
Anyway, after 15 years of marriage it finally ended, thank goodness. The point to all this is that if I had not overlooked his very obvious character flaws in the beginning I could have saved myself a lot of pain.
But, you can’t go back, and if you find yourself in a relationship with someone right now who doesn’t seem to care much about your feelings, there is still hope. You don’t have to settle for a never ending string of abuse. The one thing that you will need to make things better is the full cooperation of your spouse. If your spouse won’t work with you, you have to be realistic and face the fact that it will be an uphill battle.
Having said that though, there is always hope if there is love. The two of you may need to find a counselor who can teach each of you better ways of communicating and interacting. This probably won’t be a a quick fix, you should be prepared to invest as much time as it takes to re train yourselves and redefine the dynamic of your relationship.
Another important thing to take into consideration is that the only person you can change is you. If your spouse would like to improve on the person they are and wants to make changes than great, but if not, you can’t force them. Just seeing the positive changes you are making may help them find the courage to face their own foibles though.
I don’t pretend to have all the answers when it comes to relationships but now that I’m on my second marriage (I didn’t repeat the mistakes I made the first time around, I found someone who could be more like a partner and not abusive) I have learned a few wife husband relationship tips.