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The Importance Of Common Interests
Something that a lot of people may overlook in the beginning of a relationship is the fact that they have nothing in common. When the lust is over powering and the infatuation is completely over the top, it is easy to believe that everything is going to work out. You are convinced that it has a happily forever after ending just waiting to happen even though one of you is obsessed with sports and the other one HAS to have a weekly night at a the local art gallery. One of you craves loud heavy metal music while the other one insists on the opera. While these are not things that cannot be overcome, if there are more opposite interests than those in common, it can definitely be an issue.
Suppose, for example, the guy loves sailing and deep sea fishing. His new woman gets sea sick just THINKING about being on the water. Is he going to sell his boat and stop fishing? Or maybe she is a fashion designer and his idea of style is a 80s pair of holey jeans? These can be some rather serious differences but, again, they can still be overcome if there is the will to do so.
Consider for a minute, though, that with so many of these differences in place, just how much time would the two of you actually spend together having fun? Yes, being in bed IS having fun, but you cant realistically stay there forever. You must come out on occasion and participate in that important thing called Life.
The best way to meet someone who has interests the same as you is by hanging out in places that you enjoy. There will be other single people there that will be interested in talking to you. This is the chance to get to know someone better who may become important to you. A situation like this will help the connection begin on common ground.
Another way to make sure that you connect with people who have interests in common with you is through the help of certain dating agencies or higher quality dating websites. You will find that the dating profiles required there work to match you with someone that enjoys the same sort of things you do. In order for it all to work as it is meant to, you must be totally honest when answering the questions on the profile. No one is there to judge you and the only other person who will know what your interests are will be the one you are matched with. And THIS person wont care because they will have listed the same interests as you did.
The important thing to remember is that if being in a relationship with someone who has many of the same interests as you do is what you really want, then you should not settle for less. Neither one of you will ever be totally happy. Therefore, it will be worth that extra effort to find someone who is perfect for you in all ways.
Suppose, for example, the guy loves sailing and deep sea fishing. His new woman gets sea sick just THINKING about being on the water. Is he going to sell his boat and stop fishing? Or maybe she is a fashion designer and his idea of style is a 80s pair of holey jeans? These can be some rather serious differences but, again, they can still be overcome if there is the will to do so.
Consider for a minute, though, that with so many of these differences in place, just how much time would the two of you actually spend together having fun? Yes, being in bed IS having fun, but you cant realistically stay there forever. You must come out on occasion and participate in that important thing called Life.
The best way to meet someone who has interests the same as you is by hanging out in places that you enjoy. There will be other single people there that will be interested in talking to you. This is the chance to get to know someone better who may become important to you. A situation like this will help the connection begin on common ground.
Another way to make sure that you connect with people who have interests in common with you is through the help of certain dating agencies or higher quality dating websites. You will find that the dating profiles required there work to match you with someone that enjoys the same sort of things you do. In order for it all to work as it is meant to, you must be totally honest when answering the questions on the profile. No one is there to judge you and the only other person who will know what your interests are will be the one you are matched with. And THIS person wont care because they will have listed the same interests as you did.
The important thing to remember is that if being in a relationship with someone who has many of the same interests as you do is what you really want, then you should not settle for less. Neither one of you will ever be totally happy. Therefore, it will be worth that extra effort to find someone who is perfect for you in all ways.